Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Spend More Time talking About The Relationship, and Less Money on the Ring, the Wedding (and the Divorce?)

An Emory University study suggests that there is an inverse correlation between the amount a couple spends on the engagement ring and the wedding, and the chance that the marriage will last.  I have my own theories about why this correlation may exist, but it does re-emphasize my "sermon" about pre-marital planning.  While sitting down and talking about what you intend in the marriage, financially, emotionally, and spiritually, isn't as romantic as picking a ring, or a wedding venue, it's a lot more critical to your long-term marital happiness.

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

"Conscious Coupling" What Is Marriage Supposed To Do? Does It Still Do It?

One of the recurring themes of this blog has been "Why do people get married?  What will help then accomplish whatever it is they want to accomplish by marrying?"

It appears that the number of Americans, over-all, who believe that marriage does what they want done, continues to shrink, even as the broader recognition of same-sex marriage would seem logically to have increased it.  There are theories,  both social and economic, as to why this may be;  my job, as a counselor at law, is to make sure, as much as possible, that when people enter into a legal relationship, they understand what it is, what it does, and are clear, as their partners are clear, that their expectations and understandings match, or at least, fit.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Gambling Winnings and Child Support

    Ohio has now implemented an intercept program so that winners at the four casinos in Ohio may trigger data base checks.  If the winner wins $1,200 or more from slot machines, $5,000 or more from table games or $600 or more from high-stakes games, then their name is checked against a data base for child support owed.  If anything is owed, it is taken out of the winnings.  Ohio’s seven racinos, run by the Ohio Lottery, also participates in the program and checks winnings of $600 or more for child support. 
http://www.dispatch.com/content/stories/local/2014/09/22/winners-to-pay-child-support.html

     Apparently, Ohio is not alone in this initiative.  Louisiana has a similar program to collect child support from gambling winnings.
http://www.klfy.com/story/26376451/state-collects-2-million-in-child-support-payments-from-gamblers


    Generally, states take child support seriously and if it is owed, it does not go away.  It is non-dischargeable in bankruptcy and will go against the owing parent’s estate.  This is true even if the child is an adult.   Child support services has a long reach in collecting the money.  They can do anything from garnish wages to intercept tax refunds to suspend licenses issued by the state. 

Monday, August 25, 2014

Exercising Self-Help in Custody Cases

    Kathleen Aubain is in the Oneida County Jail in New York for violating a court order.  Aubain has a two and a half year old daughter, Isabellah Rose Campos with Eric Campos.  All three were living in Arizona.  Campos has custody of Isabellah. Aubain’s mother says the only reason Campos has custody is because Aubain didn’t bring Isabellah back to him at the end of her custodial time.

    Aubain then left the state of Arizona and fled, with Isabellah, to Utica, New York.  She didn’t have permission to leave Arizona.  She has been arrested and is currently in jail.  She is refusing to tell authorities where Isabellah is or who is caring for her.  Aubain claims that she is protecting Isabellah who she believes is being abused by Campos.  The Arizona social worker determined that the police investigator who examined Isabellah found the bruising to be consistent with Campos’ account that the child’s five-point safety harness used while riding a Rhino vehicle on rough terrain in the desert caused the bruising. 



http://www.wktv.com/news/local/Mother-still-refuses-to-disclose-Arizona-toddlers-whereabouts-270534811.html

    I have said it before.  Do not exercise self help.  Do not defy a court order.  If you feel like there is something happening, such as abuse, notify the proper authorities, and make a request through the court.  Exercising self help is a good way to lose custody.